Should Have

When we look at our lives, we are often faced with the “should haves.” You know what I mean, the things you wish you had done because it may have just happened to change the course of our lives. But for one reason or another, we did not do them…and they became “should haves.”

When I started thinking about this idea of “should haves,” I tried to think of some examples from my life. Here are a couple things that sometimes I think about, and I wonder: how would my life be different if any of these were on my “done” list, rather than my “should have” list.

  • Should have been been more involved at Cornell, especially since I was blessed to have a Christian roommate
  • Should have gone on roomies freshmen year
  • Should have gone back to Mexico, or gone on another missions trip
  • Should have gotten on the 4:00 Am ferry
  • Should have gone to China to study
  • And in some cases, it’s as simple as: should have said yes/no

But here is the thing…no matter what we have or have not done, we are where we are in life because of it. Every time I start to think about these, or other “should haves” I remember something powerful: God has a plan for me and although I do not know what it may be, I know it will be great. As people, we are naturally flawed, and we often think this gets in the way of God’s plan for us. But, I assure you, God has a plan for each and every one of us.

So although we may think of the “should haves” and wish we could go back, remember that because of them, you are who you are today. And if you are not who you want to be, remember that life is a journey and you are getting closer to who you are meant to be. You cannot change the “should haves” in your life, you can only look forward and take advantage of the times to come.

On a different note, whenever I think of “should haves” I always think of this song. Brings back great memories of the RlazyS Ranch, that’s for sure!



One of the hardest things you will ever have to do in your entire life is exercise forgiveness towards someone…yet it can also be one of the most important things you can ever do.

I will be honest, sometimes it is very difficult to say those three words: I forgive you. There have been people in my life who I may not want to forgive, for one reason or another. These are people who have hurt me physically or emotionally, have broken my heart or my body, have changed me in ways I could not have previously imagined…

To these people, I feel called to extend forgiveness. As the songs say, this is very difficult and you often feel like the one loosing when you offer someone forgiveness. However, as the physical and emotional wounds heal, I know that the healing will only be complete once I extend true forgiveness.

I have personal stories of forgiveness, and may share them here at some time. But for now, I encourage you to seek out one of two type of people…first, the people that have wronged you, tell them you forgive them…second, the people you have wronged or hurt in some way-ask them for their forgiveness.

Father- grant me the grace to show these people the forgiveness they deserve. You have forgiven me of all my sins and wrong doings, who am I not to extend this to those who have wronged me? Help too, these people…allow them to learn from their mistakes and work in them to help them be who you want them to be.

I know it will not be easy, but I will do my best to live the words of Matthew 6:14-15For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.  But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins. And Matthew 18:21-22 Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother or sister who sins against me? Up to seven times?” Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.

100 Posts Down!

Well, once I push “publish,” this will be my 100th blog post on this site! When I posted my first post on December 30th, 2010 I had no idea whether or not I would keep going with it. I have not always been the best with keeping a journal in the past, but this seems to be different. And now, 17th months later, here I am with my 100th!

So just for fun, I have put together some random facts for my blog. Here ya are:

  • Top Pages/Posts: Homepage (1082), 30 Day Photo Challenge (384), 20 Day Song Challenge (294), Bucket List (76), Who Am I (61)
  • 66 Comments, 21 Categories, 343 Tags, 23 blog subscribers
  • Top Countries: USA, Canada, Argentina, South Korea, Japan, Singapore, Australia, Russia, Ireland, South Africa
  • Top Referrers to my blog: Facebook (1352), (91), search engines (84), (62), Twitter (53), LinkedIn (38), (24), (14)
  • Busiest Day: Feb 28, 2011 (88 views)

That is just a few random facts, but I find them interesting enough.

I have written about why I blog before, so I will not say much now. What I will say is that I have greatly appreciated the creative outlet that this blog has provided. It has allowed me to write and post a lot of what is on my mind and what I have gone through. Granted, not everything that has happened is here, but a good amount has been written about. I look forward to continue writing and posting for a long time to come. In fact, I have 7 different drafts to posts that will be coming up in the near future! So no worries, this blog is not going anywhere!

I am especially thankful to those of you who have read this, and even more so for those of you who have subscribed. I greatly appreciate your support, comments and everything! If you ever have questions or want me to write about something, please do not hesitate to ask-just post a comment somewhere!

Well, there’s my 100th! Not super glamorous but just what I wanted to write 🙂 Be sure to be on the lookout for more posts on faith, life, music and whatever else may be on my mind! For as long as I can, I will continue using this blog.


I pray for you…every day.

I pray you will succeed in all that you do, for I know you will be able to accomplish what you put your mind to.

I pray God blesses you in new ways every day and He provides you with the right opportunities and circumstances for your life. Continuously seek God’s will for your life and in all you do acknowledge Him through your actions, words and motives.

More than anything, I pray you will be happy. Embrace what life has to offer and seek out new opportunities.

Remember the past, live in the present and look to the future.

I’ll always be here for you, anytime.